Feb 26th- Feelings hurt

So I've always been the person that never shuts friends out even when I had big things going on like grad school and work, dating a new guy, getting engaged and planning a wedding, getting married and going on a honeymoon, buying a house, and now being pregnant. Infact I'm the person that includes everyone, keeps in touch with them and plans fun things and invites everyone to them. But one of my best friends totally forgot about everyone but herself during her first pregnancy 3.5 years ago and now another one of my good friends is doing the same thing and it hurts my feelings. Anyone else go through this?

This time it was one of my only friends who knew some details about our IF journey and we talked as we'd been friends since hs and were both TTC and went walking together 1-2x a week all summer long. Then she gets pregnant in Sept and does't tell anyone for 12wks which is fine, esp since she had a mc a year ago, but now I'm the only one still doing anything to maintain the friendship at this time. First I was calling her to see how she was, then emailing and now emailing and she'll respond with 1-2 sentences. She asked about nursery furniture stores and stuff and I gave her info and she's yet to ask "how are you" or "how are things" or " do you have news to share as you seem to know a lot about these things?" Also we went to dinner together about 2 months ago and she didn't ask about me the entire dinner. It was just us at dinner too. I finally gave her an update just to do so. How do you have dinner with a friend and never ask about them? During that dinner I told her that we were having a successful month (it was our Femara cycle) and that we were basically waiting to find out if we were pregnant. After that and still she never asked how I am.

Well her babyshower is coming up in 3 weeks and I'm just not feeling it. I will go, buy her a nice present and do the right thing. But part of me wants to show up and somehow have her overhear me telling one of her friends that we're pregnant. But I won't, bc the first thing I see happening is she saying "oh my gosh, congrats, why didn't you tell me?!" And then I'd feel bad. She's really a sweet girl but why do some people totally forget their friends when pregnant?! I don't mean to be selfish but I really care for my friends and when a good friend totally forgets you and doesn't even ask about you for weeks it's hurtful, all the while I continue to contact her and send her info to help and answer her questions.

Any suggestions? I'm thinking I'll just see what type, if any, communication I get from her between now and her shower. Or I could try and get together with her in about 2 weeks before the shower to tell her our news and also tell her I got my feelings hurt. I don't know, I sometimes think this is good to tell people so they realize and then part of me thinks it's not needed and just be the bigger person.

Oh well. I know I'll be fine. I just hate when these things happen. Sorry if I sound like a baby.